A couple of weeks back, my lovable wife asked me an interesting question.
Do you think you've grown increasingly unhappy since the changes in 2014?
I stalled for a bit, and let the question sink in.
Yes, I've been complaining and upset about several matters that seems to have kept me irritated and pissed off, and I wonder if she's right.
The business decision and strategy is sound; and losing my dad was indeed a traumatic event that I can't control; and facing people who could only blame another for what they're experiencing was driving me nuts.
So I decided – I'm going to be happier, and I'll achieve this by focusing on things that truly matter, and slowly and steadily ignore the minor issues that doesn't. Looking back, it's easy to fall into a system of complaining about everything and nitpicking, that in the end amounts to little.
- getting annoyed by people and their nuances – their nuances is theirs, not mine, and I'll remind myself of that.
- trying to search 20 companies to find a 5 cent discount – someone, please kill me.
- worrying about something I can't control – if I can't control it, I might as well let go.
I'll write a bit more about focus.