I have confirmed that I don’t really enjoy surprises, and I also don’t really enjoy trying to give surprises to people.
- Perhaps it’s because of my inherent fear that if I try to surprise someone, it’d backfire if the person actually got an unpleasant shock, or says “try harder” (which explains my disdain for people who like to “work others hard to feel significant”).
- Perhaps it’s my dislike of having to say or show that I was pleasantly surprised though I wasn’t, and I had to show it so that the people who try to surprise me so that they feel good about themselves.
- Perhaps it’s because of my life, business and investment experiences – I prefer things to be stable, status quo and the same, so that I can never be surprised. Surprises have often been painful and uncomfortable, that I need to quickly take specific life, business and investment decisions to turn things around (an example is how life threw me a surprise in my father’s passing after 17 days of hospitalization, comatosed, AFTER my 5-year-delayed honeymoon)
I prefer not to give or receive surprises where I can help it. It’s stressful, and I prefer to have my own time and space. I prefer to be me.