As I gather experience in meeting new people, connecting with old people and learn from businesses and investments, what dawns upon me more and more is that congruence matters.
It's on the same plane as integrity.
I define congruence as being consistent with the values that one holds and the actions and words that one take, and they should be reflective of each other. An example is if I see and meet a vocal vegan, and I see him or her eating meat, then it's a great disconnect, a great non-congruence. It's the same for business, investing, and even any simple promises.
I think that people are dynamic, yes, and at times, they may forget, and they may do things spontaneously and then go “Oh! I forgot about that.” – yes, this happens, I know we're human and make mistakes, and yes, there are different levels of things that are important.
Back to the example of the vegan – he or she may have been given an obscure candy that is out of their norm, and they forget to check/find out that it's vegan, and they eat it and find out later, and upon finding out, they stop eating it. This is small matter of non-congruence that happens by chance.
However, if he or she went out of their way and purposefully eat something non-vegan, then it's a blatant non-congruence that they're committing. This is much like a salesman who do not buy or consume what he or she sells – it's just a job, a facade.
I find it hard to accept such a notion, perhaps because I think and feel that it's hard to live such a disconnect. Maybe I'm too quick – maybe I don't understand their history, or their background, or their circumstances. It's likely that they have a reason they do what they do.
If they're doing it wrong unconsciously, I think I'm ok with it.
Hmm. I'm thinking as I'm writing this, which is likely why the tone of the article changes.
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What about you? What do you think about congruence and being true to yourself?